Why practice non-judgment? Like detoxing the physical body by eating clean, healthy food, and avoiding alcohol and caffeine, the practice of non-judgment purifies and deprograms the mind. With greater mental clarity, one can see new possibilities, transcend perceived limits, and live a life of greater ease, joy and love. Experiment with the practice of non-judgment and other Essential Balance Principles™ to transform your life!
Humans are energy or light beings. Science tells us that. We have an innate sense that there is more to life than meets the eye. Obviously, we are not complete at birth. We have vast unseen potential. We’re not fixed and solid. Our thoughts and emotions come and go. The body takes in food and eliminates waste. The cells that make up the organs and bones of the body regularly renew themselves. We’re dynamic, ever-evolving beings on a miraculous journey of becoming.
Yet, with a mere judgmental thought in the mind, we collapse all of that brilliance and infinite invisible potential with a single statement, such as I’m “fat,” “stupid,” “a failure,” “hopeless,” or “worthless.” And what’s worse? We believe these horrible things that we tell ourselves!
Judgment is the constant habit of evaluating and categorizing the self, others and life experiences as either “good or bad” or “right or wrong.” Judgment leads to emotional suffering. Judgment also limits perception. By letting go of judgment, we can avoid unnecessary suffering and discover new freedom and possibilities.
How to Practice Non-Judgment
1. Begin the day by setting the intention not to judge:
“I choose not to judge myself, other people or anything that happens today.”
2. When you notice judgment arising, breathe and say “I am” or “It is.”
3. When judgment arises, try to stay present even if you’re feeling discomfort. Notice how you feel when you reside in a place of non-judgment. Do you feel lighter? Or, more spacious? Are you more open?
4. If you find yourself stuck in judgment, consider other perspectives, or ways to look at, whatever you are judging.
5. Become aware of really subtle forms of judgment. For example, I notice that when I have a dirty job, such as cleaning up a mess, I contract in my body reflecting my aversion; an almost unconscious dislike. Can you identify a common irritant that causes you to contract in judgment? For some people it is driving in traffic. For others, it is doing the laundry, paying the bills, or waiting on line.
6. If you notice a recurring judgment accompanied by strong emotion, such as anger, sorrow, guilt or shame, this signals the need for forgiveness and emotional release.