Posts Tagged ‘love’

Relax. You Are Enough!

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Are YOU feeling down on yourself?

Recently, I’ve heard from several people who feel badly about themselves because they have fallen short of their own expectations, or because life hasn’t turned out as they wanted. I can relate having felt that way myself at times.

If this is you, please give yourself a break.

From a spiritual perspective, your worth is inherent. All are One in Spirit. So, there is no need to prove your value. God, and people who see you through the eyes of love, don’t care what you do for a day job, how much you earn, that you don’t look like Beyoncé, and that you haven’t won a Nobel Prize.

Compassion in a New York Minute

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“Compassion is the wish-fulfilling gem
whose light of healing spreads in all directions.” (Sogyal Rinpoche)

One evening, I was walking home when I heard a child crying loudly from somewhere behind me. As the anguished cries continued unabated, I heard the hurried footsteps of someone fast approaching me with a “harrumph” and turned my head to see an irritated woman. She explained without prompting, “I have to walk fast because it’s breaking my heart.” With more than a hint of annoyance, she quickly added: “Just pick him up and comfort him!”

Wow! What a concise teaching on compassion. Acknowledge the pain of another, let it touch your heart, put yourself aside to be there for them, and offer caring or comfort, without judgment, to alleviate their suffering. That is compassion. When someone is suffering: “Just pick him up and comfort him!”

The call of compassion is urgent. It’s wired in our brains thanks to mirror neurons that allow us to know what others are feeling.

5 Keys for Cultivating Loving Relationships

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All of us want to be seen and loved for who we are. To open our hearts and reveal our true selves—vulnerabilities and all, we need to feel safe with another person. It can be scary stuff, baring your soul; almost impossible in a cold, harshly judgmental or hostile environment.

“Real intimacy is a sacred experience. It never exposes its secret trust and belonging to the voyeuristic eye of neon culture. Real intimacy is of the soul, and the soul is reserved.” (John O’Donohue)

So, how can you create a safe container for love to grow in your relationships? Here are five keys, which, if you put into practice, will help you cultivate love in your life.

Love,…Just Because

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Love is the essence of your being. It is the sacred ground in which you are rooted. It’s the invisible current of life that flows through you. And, when this vital energy is flowing freely, you enjoy vibrant physical and emotional health, and remember your connection to spirit.

Does it seem strange to think of yourself as love? That may be because, not only is love both a noun and a verb, but, from an early age, you experienced love as conditional. That means it is only given or received under certain conditions. While parents may, in fact, love their children unconditionally, from a child’s perspective, it doesn’t seem that way, when the parent withholds tenderness, affection and approval, when the child fails to behave as expected. As children, when we fell short of what was expected of us and met with disapproval, we may have concluded that we were unlovable or not deserving of love. Thus, from the earliest age, we got the message that our value is conditional and not self-evident. Later in life, this belief continues to be reinforced as people judge us on the basis of superficial things, such as our appearance and how much money we make, rather than for who we are. But more importantly, we do this to ourselves by rewarding ourselves with self-love only when we pass certain self-imposed tests. You know how it goes: if you gain a few pounds, things aren’t going well at work, or you aren’t in a relationship, you don’t feel good about yourself and deny yourself love.