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Compassion in a New York Minute

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“Compassion is the wish-fulfilling gem
whose light of healing spreads in all directions.” (Sogyal Rinpoche)

One evening, I was walking home when I heard a child crying loudly from somewhere behind me. As the anguished cries continued unabated, I heard the hurried footsteps of someone fast approaching me with a “harrumph” and turned my head to see an irritated woman. She explained without prompting, “I have to walk fast because it’s breaking my heart.” With more than a hint of annoyance, she quickly added: “Just pick him up and comfort him!”

Wow! What a concise teaching on compassion. Acknowledge the pain of another, let it touch your heart, put yourself aside to be there for them, and offer caring or comfort, without judgment, to alleviate their suffering. That is compassion. When someone is suffering: “Just pick him up and comfort him!”

The call of compassion is urgent. It’s wired in our brains thanks to mirror neurons that allow us to know what others are feeling.

5 Keys for Cultivating Loving Relationships

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All of us want to be seen and loved for who we are. To open our hearts and reveal our true selves—vulnerabilities and all, we need to feel safe with another person. It can be scary stuff, baring your soul; almost impossible in a cold, harshly judgmental or hostile environment.

“Real intimacy is a sacred experience. It never exposes its secret trust and belonging to the voyeuristic eye of neon culture. Real intimacy is of the soul, and the soul is reserved.” (John O’Donohue)

So, how can you create a safe container for love to grow in your relationships? Here are five keys, which, if you put into practice, will help you cultivate love in your life.